BIL’s wedding just got over last week. And time for another wedding - sis’s.
I was supposed to reduce a couple of kilos before the wedding. Not that I’m obese, just a couple of kilos of shed-able weight, that’s all! But just as I started back my exercise regime, there were some unforeseen situations that weight loss was the last thing I could think of.
House repainting was just about to get over, with all the mess from attic down on the floor in all the rooms, which did require all our attention. Just then there was MIL falling off a bike and breaking her nose and jaw and getting admitted to hospital twice including for a minor surgery, four weeks before her son’s wedding…. And so the wedding work - like inviting ppl and other stuff got doubled up and was topped with the hospital work and also everyday cooking work, till she felt better. Now, all these including our regular office work.
For me all these were definitely on a much higher priority as compared to losing those extra couple of kilos. Well, I don’t mean I’m not bothered about it, but then, though I might not absolutely like it, looking a little plump in the wedding is actually ok for me, given these circumstances.
While most of the relatives complimented that I looked good, one colleague who is obsessed with just looking slim made comments after comments that I looked fat. May be a darker coloured saree would have made me look thinner, maybe I should have worked out more, maybe I should have stretched and bent just before the occasion and so on…
When I looked at my own pic later, I felt I did look plumper than usual, but the reason why most people said I looked good was probably because they gave more weightage to the way I had been handling things, my behaviour and the way I treat them all gracefully, rather than just my actual weight :).
As far as I am concerned, I’m happy with my prioritization, I’m glad that everything went on well, in spite of all the tensions there were, and I looked and behaved my best, which I what most people and myself will remember about me. Very few people will remember the little fat here and there and that is ok!
That said, I don’t mean I’ll not reduce :D
So... what's your weight-age??
LOL! If you can change yourself, do it else be happy the way you are.. :-D
ReplyDeleteWhat's my weightage? Well.. I don't care as long as I am fitting in my costliest dress collections..:P
Lol, Sahana! Yup... and the weightage keeps changing based on circumstances, BTW!
DeleteWay to go Sum,being an obssesive cribber abt self weight at any given time, I know I need to make peace with my self since i am not also not too overweight, but still have few sheddable kilos
ReplyDeleteTrue, Musica.... My point is that we need to prioritize stuff, based on situations...
DeleteAhhhh... the ladies and their never ending weight issues!! ;)
ReplyDeleteI have only one suggestion for people who want to reduce. 'Start Running', it will take care.
He he, I'm into it only of late :P
DeleteEarly 30's syndrome, i suppose :D
The obsession about wt sometimes gets the better of me...nevertheless I never directly ever tell anyone that they are over weight. it is none of my business! Pls let ur colleague also know!
ReplyDeleteIt is so nice that you took over responsibility and handled it all so well! Kudos!
Thanks Anu! BTW, now shedding those kilos is my TOP MOST priority :)
DeleteGood read Sumana. Thanks to my colleague to direct me here. If you think you were perfect irrespective of your weight, others comments should hardly matter
ReplyDeleteI personally feel when you knew ur colleague was so direct, u shouldn't have asked her about your looks. When you know the comments will be negative, it is better to be away from it ;)
So just let go of such colleagues and believe in yourself
Wow! What a surprise to see you here, Vanitha! And may i know who that colleague be? ;)
DeleteWell, i know i am not perfect, definitely not! And yes, those comments from her were apt too! But just that i had way too many things heavier things on my plate then, than my own weight!
Thanks for dropping by and for the comments :)
Good read Sumana. Should thank my colleague for directing me to this link :)
ReplyDeleteI would say believe in yourself. If you think u did a fabulous job at other stuffs, then weight should be least on ur priority. BTW, when you know a few people are so direct, why even ask them for their view. IMO, you should stay away from getting negative feedback.
Did your colleague pick up the topic on ur weight all by herself or did u ask your colleague on her view
Just put them behind and get going. There is so much to life than just weight ;)
Good Read Sumana. Thanks to my colleague for directing me here :)
ReplyDeleteYou will need to believe in yourself and be least bothered about what others feel about you
Did you ask your colleague about her view or did she say it all by herself? If you had asked, then you should stay away from people who are so direct. If your colleague said all by herself, just ignore and get going
There is so much more to life than weight. As you say you were at your best with prioritization and behavior, then such colleagues should hardly matter to you ;)